Anyways, he joked with his co worker that he should just tell me to start taking care of the kids 100% throughout the night and be like the old fashioned men who do nothing to help their wives when the she needs something. The woman from work, has a 3 month old, replied, “Don't do that. My husband still sleeps through the night while I take care of the kids. I'd love it if he helped me.”
Matt felt really bad when he said what he did because he didn't want it to seem like he was bashing other men like her husband.
After Matt came home & told me his conversation, I wrapped my arms around his neck and kissed him. I really am very blessed to have him. He's been an amazing help and I couldn't be more grateful for his sacrifice in sleep, & personal time while he assists me in all the household chores, responsibilities with the kids... including the work he does outside the home. I pray Zeplin takes notice of his dad's amazing qualities and implements them into his life as he gets older.
Matt is definitely New Age with his views on being hands on with the house & family but he's a little old fashioned with other points of views like me being a stay at home mom, & his chivalry. I love all this about him and am so thankful God led us to each other.
{TWO:} Nursing
I don't understand why these questions are asked and even I catch myself wondering the answers to these questions with other mothers but I don't usually ask them. There is some badge of honor for women who feel like they had a natural birth and those that had c-section feel shame.
Same goes for breast feeding. I don't think I would feel any different if I couldn't nurse my baby - I'm just thankful I can save us the money & time by being able to nurse her. We don't have to plan for bottles, formula and warming the water ... Matt jokes, “Just pop out a tit and we're off.”
When I first started nursing, it was awful and I didn't think I was going to make it through it. Now it literally as Matt joked. Nursing takes 10-15 minutes and every couple days I will pump after I nurse her so I can keep some in storage. As of today I have over 100 ounces in the freezer.For me, my goal to nurse was purely economic and instinctual. I would tell myself, what if the world wasn't what it was and my baby would starve if I didn't nurse. . . So, I persevered through the rough times of engorgement and bleeding nipples. I was not prepared for the bond & connection I would feel with my baby through nursing.
I was so attached to my son even though I was pumping and bottle feeding him but I am insanely protective of my daughter and Matt and I agree it's because I'm nursing her. It's indescribable the feeling I have being able to give my daughter the nourishment she needs to thrive. I feel so blessed that I am able to provide this. I wish I would have done this for Zeplin too.I don't know how long I'm going to nurse her for but I hope to do it for as long as possible.... within reason. I'm not really into the thought of nursing her past 1 year.
I've finally figured out how to nurse her in public while being covered. I have some opinions on nursing in front of others while being completely exposed ... I know I would be offended if a women busted out a boob in front of my husband or son, so I would never do that. I just don't feel like we should expect men to change their instinctual views of breasts.... this is just my opinion. I would never condemn a women feeding her child in public. I know it's natural.... BUT it's also natural to poop but we invented a room with a door for that. Personally I'm thankful for nursing covers. It beats having to drive home every 3 hours.
{THREE:} My Health
My migraines have really set in this past week. I thought I was clear of them 4 weeks after Arrow's birth since I was plagued by them almost instantly after giving birth to Zeplin. But go figure, they'd come. By 9pm, I have to close my eyes and go to bed otherwise, I'm in unbearable pain and once I let my migraines get too bad, there is nothing to make the pain go away. Because of this, Matt has been having to put Arrowlyn to bed until I can wake up and feed her.I've been able to sleep great and, fortunately, fall asleep easily. Partially because I've been walking at night (when it's warm). I really can't wait to workout again. I'm a little overwhelmed with the reality that I need to lose at least 40lbs to even be within range of healthy.
I don't see my doctor again until the 12th. I'll be 7 weeks post pardum and I'm praying that my bleeding will have stopped by then because I'm nervous of what doc will say if it doesn't.
{FOUR:} Zeplin
This has been a much better week for Zeplin. It started out pretty bad though when he got play dough for Easter. He knew that was only supposed to play with it at the kitchen table with either Matt or myself there but he went against the rules and took it into his room, ultimately making a mess of it and squishing half of it in his carpet. He used his toys to cover it up.... So, I took ALL his toys away. He was devastated & his tears put him to sleep but I wasn't going to let him get away with it.
Matt got home and woke Zeplin up. Z immediately told his daddy what he did and that he felt really bad. All three of us sat down and talked about how he could get his toys back and decided that with each good decision he made throughout the week, he could pull out a toy.
It worked. He was so obedient and nice all week. He listened & did as he was told so he's already gotten a bunch of his toys back.
I'm really proud of him and love how receptive he's been. I could probably learn a thing or two from him & how well he's changed his attitude. He's such a good boy!
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The Library started doing a new bit called Tinker Time where 3-5year olds can come in and build things. We went for the first time on Tuesday with Michelle & Trevor so the boys could build and play. Both boys built their own cars and enjoyed throwing them around the room afterwards while they squealed with excitement. It was pretty adorable to watch them play together.
Trevor & Zeplin are such fun friends. When Trevor got to the library he walked up behind Zeplin and said, “Hi Zeplin.” but because Zeplin didn't know who said his name, he just said “hi” back but when he turned his head to see who it was, just jumped up and yelled “Trevor!” It was so cute!! Michelle and I both swooned.
We had another play date with them this morning. Tina and Chloe came too. I love watching these little ones running around. Having kids makes life so much fun!!
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{FIVE:} Arrowlyn >>-----> 5 Weeks
Arrowlyn loves sleeping in the sleep sacs I've made her in the past, so I've decided to make her some more. She's so cute and snuggly in them. She's also been sleeping for longer stretches & has given us over 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep earlier in the week and we were so excited! Zeplin slept through the night at 8 weeks - Fingers crossed she does the same.
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Arrowlyn has really been great with a schedule and I love that she's spending more time awake. She is starting to become receptive to our little chats and kisses. 
This beautiful baby girl is so smilie and more perfect by the second. I love talking & singing to her and being with her.
I also love dressing her up.
She's so much fun and sweet and just so beautiful!!
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